So Sunday night Lily, Jace and I had dinner at my parents house. It was nice, fun and filling. And when we were done eating, it was Lilian's turn to eat some food. I busted out her mixed veggies that she likes, but I think it was a little late, because she was too tired to eat and a little grumpy, so crying ensued. Well as she was crying my father insisted in Romanian "Don't feed her while she's crying, she'll choke!!" I turned to him and just gave him a mean look. I wanted to say sarcasticly "Thanks for saving Lilian from her horrible mother that doesn't know such a simple thing as not to feed her when she isn't able to swallow." But I bit my tongue. Then last night I was at the store with my mother when she met Lilian and I in the baby section (where else?) . As she was coming down the aisle Lilian was out of view from her, Lilian was in the cart at the end of the aisle, not even five yards from me, but my mom gasped in worry and exclaimed loudly "Oh my goodness, where is Lilian?!" I responded "MOM, she is right there in the cart! Where do you think I'd leave her?!" She didn't say anything at first, but later responded with story of when I was a baby and she took her hands off my stroller for a second and I rolled down a hill before she could realize what happened. Whatever.
Anyways, my point in this is, do you get comments like this from your family? Don't they make you feel inadequet? See this all started the day Lilian was born. I remember the first time I picked Lilian up after she was born, I heard my father mutter "support her head". I wanted to yell!! I am her mother, I have been since the minute she was born, I would never do anything knowingly that will hurt her, such as making her choke, or forgetting her at some random department in a store. Comments like that make me feel as if they think I am not capable of being as good as they were, but they never outwardly say that, but their comments expose how they feel.......((sigh)) I feel better now.
In different news, I bought Lilian a toy cel phone, she looooves it. She loves to munch on it.
Here she is playing with it as I'm typing. She doesn't like the flash on the camera and closes her eyes
just in time.
You can she her new bottom teeth in this photo....plus she is really cute in this photo too.
Yeah, your parents are prob just giving you a dose of what they got when they were younger raising you. Just remember this feeling when Lily grows up, so you don't do it to her. LOL
ReplyDeleteOh she is adorable Larissa!! I love the pic with her holding the cellphone and her 2 bottom toofies are too cute!!
ReplyDeleteAnd my answer is YES. I get the "helpful advice" all the time and I know I shouldn't, but I take it personally. This is just a recent situation I can think of but the other night the hubby and I wanted to go out to eat so we took Mason and I had some fruity little alcoholic beverage. I told my mom and she FLIPPED out on me saying that I should never drink and drive with him. Technically I KNOW she is right, but I also know my limits. I didn't eve drink half of my drink and I would NEVER put my son's life in jeopardy and drink too much. I wasn't even buzzing. Anyways, my point is I started crying and felt like a TERRIBLE mother. Then there are other times people make small comments like "tilt his head up more when you feed him"...I just let it go in one ear and out the other. From what I can see I've done a pretty damn good job raising him so far, so I don't need pointers.
I remember another time kind of like your store story, I went out to my moms and when she saw I didn't have Mason she yelled.."YOU LEFT HIM IN THE CAR!?!?!"...I said "Umm no mother, he is with Kevin (his daddy)" How dumb to people think we are?!? LOL Sheesh!!
Then the adult side of me, the side that isn't so defensive knows that people are just trying to help and they probably don't realize they are making us feel like inadequate parents. They just care and want to help, but sometimes we all tend become defensive parents and feel like they are offending our parenting.
Anyways, wow I rambled alot here..sorry! haha! I know you are a GREAT mother so don't ever doubt it or let others make you think differently! :)
What a beautiful little girl!! I don't have that problem with my family but I am having a problem with DH's family. Of course they think everything they do it right & our parenting choices are wrong *roll eyes* If it really bothers you I would consider talking to them. Just tell them that you feel that they don't think you'll be as good of a mother as they were parents by the comments they make and that you feel they think you are inadequate at being a mother. Which, if you ask me, you can SOOO tell you are a wonderful mother with a happy, healthy little girl :-D
ReplyDeleteThanks girls for the wonderful comments. I actually talked to my mother after typing this post. She understands and stated it was unintentional.
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