Mixed bag

Alright so I promised a juicy post. This is my attempt. Sorry ahead of time if it sucks.

I'll ask a couple of hypothetical questions for you guys.
We all have at least one close girl friend right? The one that we knew for a long time, we always told them our secrets and troubles. Even if you didn't keep in touch, you still talked to them like you never missed a day. Well say you two were lucky enough to get pregnant and have your children close together. How awesome. Say months went by and you two were on the phone constantly. "Well my baby just did this, what should I do?" "What did you do?". You were always exchanging advice, asking questions....the typical first time mom thing. The novelty of being a first time mom eventually wears off and you aren't talking as much again, but of course you still keep up with her. And in the act of keeping up with each other you start to notice her mother skills are slacking....bad. You notice she's never spending time with her baby, instead, the baby is spending 85% of it's time at the baby sitters instead of with your friend....because you know....your friend likes to party. Every time you are at your friends house, you notice a new guy coming out of her bedroom, you also notice her baby's diaper is usually falling off because it's so full. You also pick up on that the baby usually always smells like spit up. You ask when the last time the baby had a bath, and the response is " I don't know....3 days?".
By this time the baby is 18 months and still mainly crawling and not really talking besides saying the usual "Dada" and "Mama".
What would you do?
Now remember, this is your best friend. Would you bring it up to her that she's not being a good mother? Would you report her for inspection? Would you bring it up to her family? Would you leave it alone hoping it would work itself out?



If someone approached your closest friend or significant other and asked them what your most annoying quality was, what do you think their answer would be?

Mine? My husband would probably say I look for instant action. For example, if I come up with a good idea, I want it completed instantly....that very second. A couple of years ago, after one of our dogs had to go to a rescue, a couple of months later my husband said, " Maybe it's time we look for a playmate for our other dog, now that Cali is gone." I got a dog that afternoon. So what's yours?